Thursday, July 23, 2009

Today I would like to give you a penny for your thoughts.


I know it is still July, but in this part of the country we are beginning to think about the kids going back to school already. Somehow 90 degree weather and buying school supplies just seems wrong. In fact, it is such a contradiction I believe that it is shorting out my brain waves. Today I would like to declare that it is the schools fault that I can be so scatter brained. You believe me don't you? I think someone, somewhere could probably prove the fact that since summer is so short it causes things like forgetting to make dinner, not remembering the wet laundry in the washing machine and sleeping through the alarm. It really can't be my fault. Right?

Well, I guess I must accept the fact that summer is over and both of my kids, including my baby, will now be in school for the entire day. As I thought about that fact, I have also reflected on the things that happened to my daughter last year. As I mentioned before, my daughter was caught up in some girl drama and to be honest it was difficult to watch her go through that experience. After some prayer and reflection, I realized that I hope my daughter can turn the other cheek.

In the Christian community we have been taught to turn the other cheek for so long that I think the concept may have been skewed. When Jesus told us to turn the other cheek, He was talking about forgiving another person. Christ was not telling us to just sit around and allow other people to walk all over us. Christ was telling us to forgive other people and not spend our emotions and time worrying about something that is not important. That is what I want for my daughter. I want her to have wisdom to know what is important and what is not important, to easily forgive because she has the wisdom to see the offence from Christ's persective.

So I sat down with my daughter and a jar of pennies. I explained that in life we need to budget our time, money and yes, even our calories. I also told her that we need to budget our energy. We can gain emotional, spiritual, and physical energy from all sorts of things. I took the pennies in my hand and listed several things that we can do to earn energy pennies. As I listed things I slowly dropped pennies in her jar. Some things I listed were: depending on God to take care of problems, getting a good night's sleep, developing friendships, eating well, prayer, trying her hardest when practicing a difficult piano piece, exercising.... We talked about how it is hard to earn these pennies and we don't want to waste our energy on things that don't matter. We want to spend our pennies carefully and wisely. I told her that when other girls try to make her cry they are really trying to take her pennies; I told her that when she doesn't cry she will then take their pennies. Now when she begins to get upset about things that aren't really a big deal, I remind her to spend her pennies carefully. I hope that this idea of budgeting her energy will help her gain perspective on what types of things are worth her pennies. We talked about how you need to spend your pennies on friendships, trying your best at school even if it is difficult, time with God. She came to see that spending her pennies on the right things would give her more pennies in return.

Now the real question is "what are you spending your pennies on?". I think the time is coming for us as Christians to start spending our pennies on more important things. Maybe it will take a lot of your pennies to stand up to someone who is trying to take away your rights as a Christian; maybe we need to love someone and show them who Christ is; maybe we just need to get back into the habit of going to church. Wherever you choose to spend your pennies, please spend them wisely. I would love to hear from you. Please post any comments you have. In fact, I'll send you a penny for your thoughts. I know your thoughts are worth much more than a penny, but we are in a recession you know!

Thursday, July 2, 2009

Today I'm sharing 45 rules to life.

A friend of mine passed this email along to me and I thought I would post it. I hope you laugh, relate and enjoy it as much as I did. By the way, I starred the ones I really liked.


Written By Regina Brett, 45 years old, of The Plain Dealer, Cleveland , Ohio

"To celebrate growing older, I once wrote the 45 lessons life taught me.. It is the most-requested column I've ever written.

My odometer rolled over to 90 in August, so here is the column once more:

1. Life isn't fair, but it's still good.

2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.

3. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone...

4. Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. Your friends and
parents will. Stay in touch.

5. Pay off your credit cards every month.

6. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.

7. Cry with someone. It's more healing than crying alone.

*8. It's OK to get angry with God. He can take it.

9. Save for retirement starting with your first paycheck.

*10. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.

11. Make peace with your past so it won't screw up the present.

12. It's OK to let your children see you cry.

*13. Don't compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.

14. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn't be in it.

*15. Everything can change in the blink of an eye. But don't worry; God never blinks.

16. Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.

17. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful.

18. Whatever doesn't kill you really does make you stronger.

19... It's never too late to have a happy childhood. But the second one is up to you and no one else.

20. When it comes to going after what you love in life, don't take no for an answer.

*21. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, save it for a special occasion. Today is special.

22. Over prepare, then go with the flow.

23. Be eccentric now. Don't wait for old age to wear purple.

24. The most important sex organ is the brain.

25. No one is in charge of your happiness but you.

*26. Frame every so-called disaster with these words 'In five years, will this matter?' (My dad taught me this one)

27. Always choose life.

28. Forgive everyone everything.

*29. What other people think of you is none of your business.

30... Time heals almost everything.

31. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.

*32. Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does.

33. Believe in miracles.

*34. God loves you because of who God is, not because of anything you did or didn't do.

35. Don't audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.

36. Growing old beats the alternative -- dying young.

37. Your children get only one childhood.

38. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.

39. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.

40. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else's, we'd grab ours back.

41. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.

42. The best is yet to come.

43. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.

44. Yield.

45. Life isn't tied with a bow, but it's still a gift.